I’ve had it before. Like, you may as well have passed out because you just can’t remember how it happened. I don’t know much about it but I have experienced it. 

I don’t just have it with cutting though. I quite often just lose time and find myself doing things I don’t want to.

Lots of teenagers feel like this at some point. Partly it sounds like it’s a confidence issue. If you have known them that long and they ask you to come out, they obviously like you! I have the same sort of problem sometimes because I feel that I’m just a clinger on or something, but you have to remember that they do want you around! If you don’t feel like going out all the time then don’t, it’s your decision and you are perfectly normal. But don’t let your self confidence hold you back- push yourself. 

Emily xx

Hi,

If you both have feelings for eachother, it may be worth trying to make it work despite the distance. It’s better than not trying at all and wandering what you missed, isn’t it? My first partner and I were long distance and it can be awful at times but also very rewarding. If you do try to make it work, I reccomend skype if you weren’t already using it. Plus just keep ridiculously in contact, send each other letters and things! 

However, not everyone is cut out for that sort of relationship, so I’d say talk to her and if you agree the split is for the best you will have to just try and move on. Go out with friends, watch your favourite movies… just keep busy. Long walks are good too (however cliche that sounds)

Emily xx

Hiya.

I’ve had the same problem for years. You need to moisturize them regularly, it makes them fade quicker. I’ve heard palm oil helps but it’s very expensive and never really worked for me, and from what I’ve ready anything (including olive oil) that gives the skin some moisture works as well! 

Also, you could try covering them up with concealer or foundation, but test it to make sure it’s the colour of your skin, not just of your face otherwise it might show

Emily xx

Hey,

Well, I don’t know what your psychiatrist was like but if he didn’t help, he obviously wasn’t very good.

I tried counselling, instead of actually therapy to help with my S.I and that really helped. I felt less burden with my shit, tbh. 

I can honestly relate with this problem so much, that’s it almost hard to advise you. Something I am very sorry for. When I first stopped cutting, all I could think about was doing it. The thought plagued me. Honestly I thought about cutting more after I stopped then when I actually did. 

I guess, for me, it all got better with time. My life was so dark after i stopped, I guess because I was changing my coping methods etc but after a while, things just started to change. I had a wake up call. I let my anxiety and S.I take over my life, and I failed an entire year of school. It just jolted me back to reality, and I came to the conclusion that I had to fight it, or it would destroy me. 

I can’t suggest much, because this is such a personal struggle. (I know that sounds lame but it’s true~) you should really try talking to someone again, even if you just carry on talking to us. The weight off your shoulders will do you wonders. You should also try to distract yourself, pick up a pen, a book, a football. Anything. Anything that will just take your mind off the bad shit for five minutes. 

I know people tell us not to cut, but if it’s your way of coping, it’s your way of coping. That’s what my counsellor told me. You should be more focused on resolving the issues that made you cut in the first place, than seeing cutting as an issue itself. 

We’re here for you. Both here and on our personals. 

Meg xo

It’s not fair to go out with someone if you don’t really like them, but if you were in anyway honest when you said you liked the other girl back then it may be good to see how it could go with them. I know it’s shit but you are just wasting your time if you keep waiting for something that’s never going to happen. I’m sorry

Emily

You breathe, firstly because getting worked up over something when you already have anxiety, is not going to help.

I still can’t label my sexuality and I am almost eighteen, and have been out for over two years (as anything that isn’t straight) so I can totally understand how crappy it is. 

You don’t need to worry about your preferences, if you ask me. It doesn’t really matter, it only matters when it comes down to liking someone. If you like someone, you like them, not matter who they are. 

If you like her, maybe you should pursue. She might like you back and that might be the answer to your question. But you definitely should not stress, and this is coming from someone who let anxiety destroy almost every relationship I had last year (romantic and platonic.) 

You’ll be fine, I promise. Focus on the person, not their junk and don’t worry about labeling yourself. It’ll only give you a headache.

We’re here if you need us.
Meg xo